In love, there are 3 levels of love.
- Level 1: all about me
- Level 2: conditional love
- Level 3: love without
conditions (unconditionally)
Level 1:
When someone at level one, which he thinks is his own. He just wants what
he wants alias spoiled and childish. It's all about me.
If someone is this level, he will impose his will to change to be like
anyone he wants. Example sentences often thrown is: "how can i make
playgirl realize that she do something wrong ", "how to make a
cool girl become not cool anymore", "how to make a silent girl to
become talk as much", "how can i make a girl who hated being
like".
At this level, someone will struggling desperately for the sake of changing
others to be as he wants. He will find himself are patriot love, when he was
patriot ego. Ego to change others.
Love is not about fighting to change the other person. Love is about total
revenue be others.
When someone this level, he will feel a heavy burden and stress which is
remarkable because his life would be full of struggle. He was tired but had to
continue to fight "for the love of" truth without realizing it was
for the sake of ego.
He will fight to change the person with any fake reason "can for the
sake of love", and strive to maintain the love that he had got.
If he fails, he wanted to commit suicide because he felt his great struggle
has been wasted.
If you ever feel that you are in level 1 in love.
Level 2:
At this level, a person will be more effective because he no longer impose
its will too. But he will behave like a merchant. He'll give you love with the
terms and contracts. "if you are faithful, i'm faithful". "if
you're good, i'm good". "if you're cool, i'm too cool".
At this level, "the struggle of love" may not be too much longer
because someone more amenable to other people but with the terms and
conditions.
Here is the problem.
Someone who loves the condition will experience a lot of drama and
politics, because love is about merchandise. A person will not be free and
comfortable to be himself because it must conform with the terms and conditions
of the others. Love is not so comfortable, but merely be a competition, a
"game".
Both seem to love each other but seems hypocrite for not being themselves
in order to maintain the terms and conditions.
That's why a lot going infidelity. Front looks sweet, behind the stress so
take comfort that only obtained from mistresses.
Love is like a golden cage with the proviso that looked beautiful but
imprisons the soul.
If you ever felt this way, you are at level 2 in love.
Level 3:
At this level, someone only care about love sincerely. He received a total
of someone. If someone is loved with a love without condition, then the person
will feel a relief. He will be free to be himself, good or bad, without masks,
without bullshit. This is where the power of unconditional love.
If you love someone unconditionally, someone who receives your love will
bebas be themselves and feel truly loved sincerely. That is where the beauty of
love. Comfort therein resides. Therein end of the struggle of love and
beginning of pleasure love.
"you can be yourself what it is, i can be myself what it is, and we
accept each other and love each other."
That's enough.
Then if someone is not sincere then easily to tread and use-use?
Not like that.
Sincerely when you love someone and the person receiving it is, then you
will not make sacrifices. You quite loved as much as you.
Which makes you hurt, feel like being tread and use-use is for you to do
something outside limit the ability mu do you consider as sacrifice, so when
the "sacrifice" of your unrequited, you feel cheated.
Love is not about sacrifice, for every sacrifice there is always a desire
to ask reply. If you love, then you are sincere. To be sincere, then give
according to limit the ability so that you do not feel a loss when it is not
reciprocated.
When you sincerely, someone will appreciate your giving. If you sacrifice,
someone will treat you so easy.
So what if they already loved sincerely but someone we love do not go to
respond and seemed indifferent extraordinary?
If that's the case, then himself is received. If he's cool, you're pretty
stepping away, instead of trying to turn it into a suitable one you desire.
Stepping away does not mean to stop loving, but you just loved her from
afar.
Love has no limits, but there is a limit time. Therefore, use your time to
people who respond you, than waste time trying to make people ignorant in order
to respond to you.
After all, if you succeed in changing people ignorant so attentive, he
would not care for too long. When tricks and "game" you found out,
then he would go back cool. After all, love is about comfort. Is it comfortable
to hold hypocritical for the sake of making someone ignorant so attention? ..
Does it worth?
The most beautiful thing in this world is when you can be with people who
love you are and you're free to be yourself what their time with them.
Her reality, not everyone will accept the way you are. Take your time only
to seek and pass time with those who accept what you are. That is where the
beauty of life. That is where the quality of happiness is.
A question that is often asked about the level 3 love is, "those who accept
me as i am not a person who has a higher social status than me. I want a more
rich, famous and beautiful to be able to accept me. How's that? "
Her answer is to develop your character in order to fit with them what you
want, not by trying changing they were unfit. In other words, upgrade your
character.
But one thing to note, enhancing the character not mean change yourself.
Clothes can be changed, the appearance may change, the mind can be changed,
insight can be changed, but who you really can not be changed.
Therefore, upgrade your character as you wish accordance so that you do not
lose you the truth.
Cheers!
